I don't know who needs to hear this, but....
If you are telling him what you need to be in a happy relationship, and he is ignoring you, that is not love.
You deserve a man who will fight with you 12 times a day about who loves who more, as he is building the shed he promised.
You deserve someone who takes your goals and dreams and makes them their own.
Someone who supports you just as much as you support them.
If he is not going to do that for you, you deserve to find someone who will.
We recently purchased 12 acres just outside of a smaller town, and are sharing our journey as we build our self-sufficient lifestyle.
I have learned a lot in the last 10 years of becoming more self-sufficient. This feels like the end goal to a dream, but really it's only the beginning. There are so many things you can do to become more self-sufficient no matter what your living arrangement is. The important thing is to start where you are.
We all have the same amount of hours in the day. We decide what we are going to do with those hours. If we have set obligations, we have less hours to get our other tasks done, but still need to do them.
This may look like working out for 30 minutes a week if that is all you can squeeze in, as long as you make the time to take care of your body.
One of the big topics we touched on was about "unschooling" your kids after they have been in public school systems. I loved that she has helped her kids (17, 14, 12, and 9) get out of the check it off and get it done mode, and back to a love of learning all the time.